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Friday, May 24, 2013

Self-Defense = Confidence

So, I've seen this long list of things on facebook a few times, so I've copied and pasted below for you, and it brings up some interesting facts about how scary, crazy men try to kidnap and/or rape/murder women.  My dad was a cop in the Air Force (MP for 21 years, all about SECURITY!!!), and he always told me, "Look up when you walk, Kelly.  Look around you, know who is on the street with you.  Make eye-contact as often as possible with people. Most thieves and rapists do not want to mess with someone who looks like they can take care of themselves, or who has already seen their face."  This information alone has taught me how to carry myself in public.  I can remember being very young, maybe six years old, and my parents telling me about people who kidnap children and how I should always stay close to my parents, and look at people in the eye as I passed them, and scream and yell like crazy if someone ever did try to take me.  As a teacher I have heard several great counselor lessons on "Stranger Danger."  However, a lot of adults overlook the same facts we teach our children.  If someone looks scary, it is OK to avoid them!  If you don't want to walk to your car in a dark parking lot, alone at night, ask someone to go with you!  These are common sense things!  However, this list has some helpful reminders too, so check it out! (However - I am not really sure about the hair thing - No, I'm not going to stop wearing my hair in a pony tail on days when it just makes more sense.)

I really do feel like most women's best self-defense is a look of total confidence.  Carry yourself with good posture.  Keep your head up, and look around you, not at the ground, and not at your phone!  Make eye-contact and smile at strangers.  It can't hurt, and may even make their day better! Besides, good posture has a lot of other great benefits too, you can read about them here and here.  I do think it would be awesome if high school P.E. classes were all required to do a week-long (at least) course in self-defense too though.  If you've never taken a self-defense class, you should find one in your area! It's always good to be prepared. :) I also like to carry mace - it's only $10 at WalMart people.

What you need to know about kidnappers and rapists

A study of rapists and date rapists and kidnappers in prison Most that were interviewed over the years stated that there are some common things they look for in a potential victim. Keep in mind that sociopaths  pride themselves on how they can fool the public of their stealth. They blend in as normal ‘nice’ people.
Most are methodical and pick the right opportunity to strike. They don’t wear name tags, uniforms or text you in advance. And there is no ‘app’ to defend against them. All you can do is arm yourself with knowledge
Here are some interesting facts:
1. The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2. The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.
3. They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.
4. The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.
5. Number two is office parking lots/garages.
6. Number three is public restrooms.
7. Number four is stairwells
8. The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.
9. If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.
10. These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

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